ALL NEW! What goal have you given up because you failed once - and how
do you get back on track? Check out my interviews with 3 experts on FAILURE –
why we should embrace it and how we can move forward. Best of Your IV: Failure
Monday, December 30, 2013
The Best Of Your IV: Lessons Learned
ALL NEW! Watch this unique collection of interviews featuring FIVE life
coaches from around the country about achieving SUCCESS, overcoming CHALLENGES
and having it all. Hosted by James Singleton. “The Best of Your IV”. Something
said may encourage you to make an AUTHENTIC GOAL for the new year.
Sunday, November 25, 2012
Gift of Honor: Win $50 American Express Gift Card!
If you win, who will you honor? Maybe a non-profit in your community, a family member/friend in need or an individual who inspires you?
Here is how it will work:
1) Like the “Insightful Voice” Facebook page and become a fan to become eligible. (If you're already a fan, you're already eligible!)
2) Post your response to the question “Who will you honor with this gift and why?" with Gift of Honor as the header on Insightful Voice’s wall. For Example:
Gift of Honor: I will honor Rosie’s Place, a homeless women’s shelter, by donating the $50 gift card I receive to supply food for their pantry.
3) Finally, share that you have participated in this promotion by posting the following statement on YOUR wall to encourage others to get in on the giving:
Have you heard about the ‘Gift of Honor’ sponsored by Insightful Voice? You could win a $50 American Express gift card. Click here to find out more:
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Easy as 1, 2, 3. All responses must be posted on Insightful Voice’s fan page and steps must be completed by Midnight, Sunday, December 9. A select committee will choose THREE winners and they will be announced and sent $50 American Express gift cards Monday, December 17.
This holiday season, move forward in life by giving back to others! Click here and post your response: http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Insightful-Voice-LLC/182093855190091
Monday, March 12, 2012
Monday, February 20, 2012
Who Is The Boss?
Shortly after I moved to Boston, I was hired as the worship leader for a small Baptist church in northern Massachusetts. The job provided extra income while I worked full-time as communications director for a leading legal rights organization in charge of a number of initiatives and cases affecting the GLBT community. Knowing that the belief for equal rights marriage was not completely aligned with the church I was working for – I decided to hide the truth of what I did and who I was.
It wasn’t until the pastor of the church, my boss, heard something on the radio that piqued his curiosity about my full-time job. This caused him to call a very private meeting between him, me and the elders of the church. On that night, they asked me various questions about what I did, why I was affiliated with an organization that fought for gay marriage and how I was able to reconcile this with leading the church in worship every Sunday. They questioned my faith and my allegiance to the congregation. My identity was in crisis and it was brought on by their judgment.
What I learned is that in crisis you can decide to do one of two things: Live in a lie and deny that the crisis exists OR show the crisis who you really are and move forward in truth. As I sat there in judgment, I knew my intention was not to deceive, but my decision not to be truthful was a result of fear. What I know now is that the fear of telling the truth doesn’t have as much power as the freedom that comes with being honest to yourself and others. No matter the outcome.
While the crisis of their judgment loomed over the room, I knew that it wouldn’t last forever. I was fired and was asked to leave immediately after the meeting. I cried every mile of the way home.
Spiritual teacher and author Gary Zukav says, “If you do not bring forth the truth of your heart, how can you give the gifts that you were born to give? Potential that cannot break through encrusted fear becomes frustration, resentment, hopelessness, anger and rage. Self-hatred is self-destruction.”
I knew that those tears were not a result of self-hatred…they were tears of self-evolution and a pure sign of breakthrough. By telling the truth, I had finally shown the crisis who was boss.
www.insightfulvoice.com
It wasn’t until the pastor of the church, my boss, heard something on the radio that piqued his curiosity about my full-time job. This caused him to call a very private meeting between him, me and the elders of the church. On that night, they asked me various questions about what I did, why I was affiliated with an organization that fought for gay marriage and how I was able to reconcile this with leading the church in worship every Sunday. They questioned my faith and my allegiance to the congregation. My identity was in crisis and it was brought on by their judgment.
What I learned is that in crisis you can decide to do one of two things: Live in a lie and deny that the crisis exists OR show the crisis who you really are and move forward in truth. As I sat there in judgment, I knew my intention was not to deceive, but my decision not to be truthful was a result of fear. What I know now is that the fear of telling the truth doesn’t have as much power as the freedom that comes with being honest to yourself and others. No matter the outcome.
While the crisis of their judgment loomed over the room, I knew that it wouldn’t last forever. I was fired and was asked to leave immediately after the meeting. I cried every mile of the way home.
Spiritual teacher and author Gary Zukav says, “If you do not bring forth the truth of your heart, how can you give the gifts that you were born to give? Potential that cannot break through encrusted fear becomes frustration, resentment, hopelessness, anger and rage. Self-hatred is self-destruction.”
I knew that those tears were not a result of self-hatred…they were tears of self-evolution and a pure sign of breakthrough. By telling the truth, I had finally shown the crisis who was boss.
www.insightfulvoice.com
Sunday, February 12, 2012
If Not Now, Then When?
I was having dinner with my friend Ralph, when I took out my phone and saw missed text messages announcing the death of Whitney Houston. After I shared this news with Ralph, we talked about the songs that came immediately to our minds in honor of Whitney…all for different reasons that were connected to various occasions at any given time of our lives.
But overall, no matter the song, we agreed on the momentous impact that her talent and voice had and the gift her existence gave to this world. After I watched the media broadcast aspects of her life from her first introduction on Merv Griffin singing “Home” to her last video “I Look To You,“ the shortness of life became palpable. It left me asking, “What is the difference between being alive and truly living?”What I have learned, in times of loss and grief, is that it is my responsibility to move forward in honoring those whose lives have ended, but in the same breath recognize the overall gift of life. For a moment, I will sit in reflection and mourn. It has been said that weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning. However, what’s most important is deciding what I will do when the mourning ends and the morning comes that will help me fulfill the life I most want to live. If not now, then when?
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Wednesday, February 8, 2012
Me and My Shadow
As I wrapped up another blog entry for “My IV”, I received a call from a friend that couldn’t understand why I put my personal past for everyone to read and analyze on this site. She went on to say that my dark, shadowed past life lessons could be seen as weak, flawed situations that I have yet to resolve. She wondered would that help or hurt my recently launched life coaching practice.
The question and critique took me by surprise and I had to step back and look at the big picture of life to understand why I was really doing this.
What I learned is that I am becoming a life coach that can no longer be scared by his shadowy past no matter how much light shines on my life. I’ve learned not to allow my shadowy past to haunt me or pull me down. My shadow is there to hold me up and push me forward. It is only when I’ve learned to embrace who I am, that I can fully honor who I am becoming.
www.insightfulvoice.com
The question and critique took me by surprise and I had to step back and look at the big picture of life to understand why I was really doing this.
What I learned is that I am becoming a life coach that can no longer be scared by his shadowy past no matter how much light shines on my life. I’ve learned not to allow my shadowy past to haunt me or pull me down. My shadow is there to hold me up and push me forward. It is only when I’ve learned to embrace who I am, that I can fully honor who I am becoming.
www.insightfulvoice.com
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